Mind the Gap
by Mike Killebrew
My wife, Kelley, and I sat in a different location than we most often do at church last weekend. I realized right away that in our less than usual location I was surrounded by young families. It was a beautiful sight! I was surrounded by families with babies and young children, and I was pleasantly reminded that our church is continuing to grow younger.
While reflecting on our church growing younger, I’m keenly aware that there is an even greater need for us to pursue unity among the generations. Paul’s words found in Ephesians 4:3 to “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (emphasis added) rings in my ears. This ringing causes me to ask, what am I doing to “make every effort” to be unified with the other generations?
There are six living generations in the local church (graphic here). Because of this and the fact that each of these generations has unique experiences it is easy for there to sometimes be tension, and unfortunately, disunity. I recently had a discussion with a wise church leader on this topic who was making the astute observation that because of our rapid adoption of technology we are becoming generationally “tribal.” Technology has given us much, but at the same time it has become very easy to only surround ourselves with those who are just like us. Everyone can see the generational gaps; we’ve all witnessed the tension. Perhaps, if we are honest with ourselves, we can recognize that we have caused part of the problem. It is much easier to point out everything that’s wrong with other generations, than to try and understand them and be unified.
According to Tim Elmore in his recent book, A New Kind of Diversity, he shares five factors that are increasing the generational gaps.
Rapid changes in culture
Increased life expectancy
The mobility of society
Shifting economies
New technologies and media
As I read these, they resonate; there is tension. This tension gives even greater reason to “make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4:3). So, what can we do to bridge the generational gaps and create unity among the six living generations in the local church? Here are a few potential suggestions:
Seek to understand. Rather than criticizing or judging other generations, “make every effort” to understand their perspectives and experiences. Listen with an open mind and try to see things from their point of view. This can help to break down barriers and foster greater empathy and understanding.
Build relationships. Intentionally seek out relationships with people from different generations. Attend events or ministries where you’re likely to meet people from other age groups and “make every effort” to get to know them. Building relationships can help to break down stereotypes and promote greater understanding and respect.
Be open to learning. Each generation has unique strengths and experiences that can benefit others. “Make every effort” to learn from other generations and be willing to share your knowledge and experience with humility. By working together and sharing our strengths, we can create a stronger, more vibrant church.
Celebrate generational diversity. Rather than seeing differences as a source of tension and conflict, celebrate them as a source of strength. Each generation brings unique perspectives and experiences to the table, and by “making every effort” to embrace these differences, we become the body of Christ. Each one of us is a part of it.
Focus on common vision. While each generation may have different perspectives and experiences, we all share common goals. By “making every effort” to focus on these shared values and working toward common goals, we can create a sense of unity and purpose that transcends generational differences.
Create opportunities for intergenerational collaboration. Intergenerational collaboration can be a powerful way to bridge generational gaps and “making every effort” to create a sense of unity. Encourage and facilitate opportunities for different generations to work together on projects or ministry initiatives and create a culture of mutual respect and support.
This can be fun! Recognizing generational differences and “making every effort” to work together in unity to accomplish more for the Kingdom of God through the church should create joy. Generational differences can be so much fun that there are even board games designed around it. My daughter received a game called Mind the Gap, a trivia game for the generations, for her birthday. She recently organized a game night with our small group, including children, and it was so much fun! Our group with four generations represented had so much laughter and enjoyment as we played.
Creating unity among the six living generations in the local church is not easy, but it is essential if we want to be the body of Christ as designed. By seeking to understand, building relationships, being open to learning, celebrating diversity, focusing on common goals, and creating opportunities for intergenerational collaboration, we can bridge generational gaps and create a sense of unity and purpose that transcends age. Let us “make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Let’s mind the gap to bring unity.
